Couples Counseling & Marriage Therapy

Evolve and Grow

Through deeper understanding of your self and your partner, your connection can be enhanced. Many factors influence connection including feelings, beliefs, behaviors, words, tone and body language, as well as the energy of what's left unsaid. Becoming more conscious partners involves being vulnerable and sharing deeper-level internal experiences -- the feelings, beliefs and thoughts often beneath initial responses and reactions.  The work often isn't easy, but with willingness, empathy and effort from both of you your relationship can evolve with greater closeness, connection and intimacy as you become more aware and conscious partners. At times the work is about ending a relationship and finding meaningful ways to heal and move forward.

I can support you to improve connection, communication and intimacy, manage conflicts and disagreements, and cope with challenging life events and transitions. 

In addition to my holistic approach to therapy my work with couples is informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Gottman Method and Internal Family Systems (IFS).

Common themes worked on in therapy include:

Connection and Communication

• Lack of understanding or feeling understood

• Challenges due to defensiveness, judgement and critical words or thoughts, expectations and assumptions, and difficult feelings

• Not feeling seen or heard

• Feeling disconnected

• Fear vulnerability and opening up

• Discomfort regarding sex and intimacy

• Lack of desire

• Uncover new ways of relating to one another

Conflict and Disagreements

• Difficult decisions

• Roles and responsibilities

• Children and Parenting

• Money and finances

• In-laws

Finding a New Normal

• Betrayal or infidelity

• Life-threatening diagnosis

• Becoming empty-nesters

• Co-parenting

• Thoughtful separation or divorce

• Uncover new or more amicable ways of relating